ENFJ
Read the Introduction to Type in College book and see how your four letter code might influence your motivation and decision making.
How does your communication style based on your code relate to the following areas? (You may skip one area.)
Choosing a major
"I want to decide and then get on with it."
This is definitely how I live my life in most areas. I am very goal-oriented and determined; I make my mind up about something and then I finish it, no matter how long it takes or how hard it may be. For choosing a major, I definitely apply this theory. I am a communication major and I already have all my credits and courses aligned to graduate and I'm only a freshman. "[EJs] pick out a specific peak to climb and then proceed toward their goal."
"I want to decide and then get on with it."
This is definitely how I live my life in most areas. I am very goal-oriented and determined; I make my mind up about something and then I finish it, no matter how long it takes or how hard it may be. For choosing a major, I definitely apply this theory. I am a communication major and I already have all my credits and courses aligned to graduate and I'm only a freshman. "[EJs] pick out a specific peak to climb and then proceed toward their goal."
Learning style
Extroverted: it's true, I love studying with other people. I am a lot more productive if I'm sitting in a room working on homework with a friend who is doing the same thing than if I'm doing homework by myself.
Intuition: I'm actually more of a "sensing" type when it comes to learning styles. Like other "sensing" says, I definitely memorize solid facts, like hands on experience, and trust material as presented.
Extroverted: it's true, I love studying with other people. I am a lot more productive if I'm sitting in a room working on homework with a friend who is doing the same thing than if I'm doing homework by myself.
Intuition: I'm actually more of a "sensing" type when it comes to learning styles. Like other "sensing" says, I definitely memorize solid facts, like hands on experience, and trust material as presented.
Playing
I am extremely involved in campus activities; if it's happening, I'm already there. I definitely initiate a lot of hang outs because if I don't, who will? I hate being alone when I could be hanging out with friends. I always go to the Caf with a friend because I have a fear of walking in there and not having someone I know to sit with.
I am extremely involved in campus activities; if it's happening, I'm already there. I definitely initiate a lot of hang outs because if I don't, who will? I hate being alone when I could be hanging out with friends. I always go to the Caf with a friend because I have a fear of walking in there and not having someone I know to sit with.
Possible causes of stress
I definitely am a people pleaser and it can stress me out and make me anxious if i'm sensing people aren't enjoying themselves or having a good time at an event. Even if I didn't initiate the event, I'm always concerned about people having a nice time. My need to socialize has often interfered with work. For example, I chose to hang out with friends all day and neglected to do this assignment until right before bed.
I definitely am a people pleaser and it can stress me out and make me anxious if i'm sensing people aren't enjoying themselves or having a good time at an event. Even if I didn't initiate the event, I'm always concerned about people having a nice time. My need to socialize has often interfered with work. For example, I chose to hang out with friends all day and neglected to do this assignment until right before bed.
Dealing with stress
Hanging out with people definitely helps deal with stress. I have to be extra careful about fitting study time in because of my busy social schedule.
Hanging out with people definitely helps deal with stress. I have to be extra careful about fitting study time in because of my busy social schedule.
Part twoCommunication strategies
1. Select a person in your life who you would like to improve your communication with. (Roommate, boss, professor, parent, brother or sister, friend).
Boss, Marie.
2. Based on your observations of this person, guess their four letter code. Explain your guess.
ESTJ. She is definitely extroverted because she is always striking up conversations with her employees and clients. I think she is Sensing because she is very practical and driven by what's happening in the present. I think she is Thinking because decides things based on analyzing situations in a logical manner. I think she is Judging because she definitely keeps everything very orderly; everything must be exactly how it's supposed to be.
3. Compare and contrast your code with theirs. The two differences in our code is the S and the T. I actually think I have a lot of the sensing type in my life. Just like the guest speaker said, even if I wear size 8 shoe, I'm not going to fit into every single size 8 shoe; I might need and 8.5 in some brands. For the Thinking as opposed to Feeling, Marie is definitely a thinker because she is a rule follower and is concerned about that more than basing decisions on the how the group feels as a whole about any given matter.
4. List ways that you might adapt to their communication style to improve the relationship.
I can try and be more logical and understand that that's where she is coming from. I can really try to master all of the minute details she affirms are important (even though my co-workers do not succumb to these).
5. Give a specific example of what you will do differently.Thinkers are people who like to be appreciated for an accomplishment they have done so next time I notice that Marie does something noteworthy, I'll be sure to mention it to her. I could write her a card telling her how I appreciate her as a boss and list the things I notice she does that I appreciate.
1. Select a person in your life who you would like to improve your communication with. (Roommate, boss, professor, parent, brother or sister, friend).
Boss, Marie.
2. Based on your observations of this person, guess their four letter code. Explain your guess.
ESTJ. She is definitely extroverted because she is always striking up conversations with her employees and clients. I think she is Sensing because she is very practical and driven by what's happening in the present. I think she is Thinking because decides things based on analyzing situations in a logical manner. I think she is Judging because she definitely keeps everything very orderly; everything must be exactly how it's supposed to be.
3. Compare and contrast your code with theirs. The two differences in our code is the S and the T. I actually think I have a lot of the sensing type in my life. Just like the guest speaker said, even if I wear size 8 shoe, I'm not going to fit into every single size 8 shoe; I might need and 8.5 in some brands. For the Thinking as opposed to Feeling, Marie is definitely a thinker because she is a rule follower and is concerned about that more than basing decisions on the how the group feels as a whole about any given matter.
4. List ways that you might adapt to their communication style to improve the relationship.
I can try and be more logical and understand that that's where she is coming from. I can really try to master all of the minute details she affirms are important (even though my co-workers do not succumb to these).
5. Give a specific example of what you will do differently.Thinkers are people who like to be appreciated for an accomplishment they have done so next time I notice that Marie does something noteworthy, I'll be sure to mention it to her. I could write her a card telling her how I appreciate her as a boss and list the things I notice she does that I appreciate.
